I've never been a man to use absolutes, to think that honesty is something that is always expected is juvenile. People that speak their minds all the time are always labeled as the jerks. Just think about it, if someone told you exactly what they were thinking whenever you asked all the time, half of the time they would say something you wouldn't want to hear. People don't always want the truth. They want to hear that they're perfect, it feeds their ego. No one wants to really sit down and talk about their flaws.
I believe that people have moral complexes that keep them from telling the truth. I wonder do other species have the communication issues that we humans have? When Rover comes home late, is his wife waiting at the doggy door asking him where he's been and why there's kibbles n bits on his breath when they only have Iams?
The truth is relative to the situation I think. Lies never hurt anyone, it's when lies come to the surface that people get hurt. Think about it, if you tell your g/f you've only been with 3 women, when you've really been with 7 women and the topic never comes up again... no harm done. I have more faith in people than I should. I like to think that decent people won't lie to you about something that's important, but I'm usually wrong. I guess I have a naiveity because the truth is, there's a 50/50 chance that what you're hearing out of someone's mouth is a lie. Now you can either be suspect of everything that someone says and live your life in a paranoid delirium. Or you can accept that people are human, if you've lied before, odds are that person has lied before and probably will lie to you at one point and you to them.
Lying is a vicious, but necessary circle. Parents lie, lovers lie, politicians lie, teachers lie, the damage done is only relative to the situation. Just my thoughts, what do you guys think?
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I agree. Now that you put it that way. I definitely agree. Unfounded lies don't harm anyone. When they're brought to the light is when it becomes a problem. Kuddos on this post.
- Ash.
I think you should always tell the truth. Not many things surprise me, or offend me, or hurt me, sticks and stones can break my bones, you know the rest. I am one of extremes, but I believe honesty cannot be presented recklessly without care. Truth has to be regulated, and some people just need to be eased into finding out what's real.
The whole truth, and nothing but the truth, is what I expect from people that I trust, but yes, I know they lie to my face sometimes, I know I lie to theirs, too. I don't like it when they get so angry at me when I lie, though. When I find out someone's lied to me, I hardly get mad because lying is in human nature.
Secrets are just secrets, truth is just truth, people carry too much shame in their hearts, unhealthy amounts of it.
Michael.
Thanks Ash for the comment.
Michael, thanks for your insight also. I wasn't trying to say that telling the truth isn't the right thing, just that people don't always tell the truth. You pretty much hit the nail on the head. I'm not usually bothered by lies unless it's kind of like a betrayal like your spouse cheated on you or something like that. But little white lies don't usually phase me too much.
The answer is complex. People should always tell the truth when it comes to health. Contrary, sometimes people should lie to protect someone else's emotions. For example, my ex-boyfriend lied by not telling me he has a child, this would have devastated me had he told me sooner. However, in the end this ruined our relationship.
Although, I take criticism well, I would appreciate being lied to on some topics such as the one I mentioned, because I know I would not be able to handle it if I love the individual like I did.
Ashley
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