A Thought On Relationships

This is mainly a regurgitation of what my pastor preached about in church today, but it moved me and stirred my thoughts quite a bit.

The person you're with is the person you asked for. They haven't changed at all, they've always been the same person. It's just that when youre meeting someone, you only get to see one side of them and humans are more than 2 dimensional so there's more than one side to a person. There's never any complaints when relationships are going fine, but the moment you have an argument or a disagreement, then he or she has changed, they haven't changed. When you find your significant other, if you find the right one they're supposed to be your other half, they're supposed to think of things that you don't and you won't always agree. You don't want to be in a relationship with someone like yourself, that's what friends are for you want someone who'll bring something new to the table. So don't think of differences as reasons to run away.

Times will eventually get hard, but when you are weak, your other half is strong and vice versa. Men do get weak, and we need a woman who can be strong when we get weak, not a woman who'll say "man up" all the time, because the world beats us up enough and if we get beat up at home, then there's no point in coming home.

Don't always listen to your friends when it comes to your relationship. Especially if they're telling you to leave your significant other. Some people are just jealous and misery loves company so people will say anything to see you just as miserable as them. Most of the time people tell their friends all their business and dont tell their partner their feelings and they get to that point where they get fed up because they have all these feelings that're building up and eventually it all comes out in one big explosion. Before that happens, try talking to your partner, before you get to "girl he got one more time" have a conversation with your partner and see if that doesn't improve your relationship.

The grass isn't always greener on the other side. The 80/20 rule is in effect here. Don't think that just because somebody looks good and says exactly what you want them to say at that moment, that they're better than who you have. Some people treat a relationship like a job, they're just sticking around until they find a "better" job, what most people don't realize is that there aren't any better jobs there's just different jobs, every job has it's own drama and people you can't stand. There's people and things about every job that you don't like and just because a job pays more, doesn't make it a better job.

Don't go into a marriage, with the thought that if this doesn't work, I'm leaving because if you have that mentality, that you can get out, then you will get out. If you go into something and there's no way out, you'll find a way to make it work. That's why marriages in the old days lasted so long because there wasn't a divorce. You only got a divorce two ways, either the Pope granted it to you or you went to Vegas. If you believe that something will fail, then it will, don't ever believe that your relationship will fail and you always have a chance.

Love one another!

-Peace