"I'm a man!" Are you really?!?

I hear this everyday from so called men. yes I call you guys "so called men" because by my understanding of what a man is, you don't quite meet the criteria. Oooh, did I make some of you mad? Am I now considered weak or feminine because I can clearly point out the flaws in your statement and yet you find it so difficult to point out mine?


Well too bad!

Here's what i understand a man to be. Number one, a man can teach someone else to be a man. That disqualifies half of the so called men right off the bat since some of yall don't take care of the children you brought into this world. You know you can't teach it if you don't know it yourself and if you don't know how to man up and take care of your responsibilities then you can't call yourself a man. In fact some of these women are more of a man than yall so called men because they're doing your job better than you... my mom raised two boys as a single parent and we both turned out just fine, different, but fine (although, I'm waiting on the DNA tests to confirm that my brother is actually related to me).

Another thing about so called men is that they're so quick to point out that they're a man. I'm sorry but if you have to remind us about it that many times, you must have trouble believing it yourself.

Real men are gentlemen, sure they may be a little rough around the edges sometimes, but at the core we love women, not only as sexual tools, but as companions, friends, and family members.

Most men are stubborn. I don't mean stubborn in the sense that we don't want to hear what you're saying, but stubborn in the sense that we want to do everything. Men do have some pride issues, we can't ask for directions, we try to fix anything that breaks, and we try to work through pain and illness like it's nothing. If you're a so called man that has pride issues, you may be stubborn as well, but your stubbornness mainfests itself in different ways like ignoring your significant others' requests for help, arguing about things you neglected to do because you were out "being a man" whatever the hell that means, and thinking your way is ALWAYS the best way.

Now most real men have had their pride shattered, and I don't mean your girlfriend busting out a mapquest printout on you when you're stranded, but I mean your girl straight embarassing you at Thanksgiving dinner because your ass forgot to put the electric bill in the mailbox now you're eating frozen turkey. the difference between so called men and real men is that real men can take that shot to the ego and pull themselves back up. So called men refuse to accept responsibility for that because they know taking a shot to the ego will bring out the b*tch in them and expose them for what they are and remove the possiblity of them ever proclaiming to be a real man and bringing down the stock value of real men.

In fact, it's so many so called men posing as real men that women have begun to think that there's no good men around. Ladies, ladies, please don't fret, there are plenty of real men out there, just we're being drowned out by the so called men and there are far too many of yall for us to ever reach you all.

Don't worry though, the real men in the world will do their best to affect each and every one of yall's lives. I don't mean by sleeping with you either, that's a so called man's game. Real men influence lives by being a friend, brother, father, teacher, lover, confidante, a shoulder to cry on, one night stand (yes they do that too, but only for special instances, lol) you name it they do it!

Now I've taken personal care to try to remove myself from being in either group. I do this because I'm still growing as a person and I'm not going to point out that I'm a real man because I'm not there yet. A real man is what I aspire to be, see the difference between me and a so called man? A so called man would've said, "yeah I'm a real man I can do all the things i just pointed out" when they can't. I'm willing to do what i need to do to be the best man I can be, so I'll just say that I'm a real man in training. Lol.

If you read this and get upset... man up it's only an opinion and like assholes, everyone has one...